We all have various crisis to deal with, traumas from our past that we have locked away to forget, illnesses, accidents, relationship breakdowns, bereavements or redundancy.
All of these can have such a knock on effect to our emotional well being and then our physical health- especially when coupled with the increasing amount of stress that we face as 'normality' in our everyday lives.
But how do you cope with the overwhelm, panic and sometimes shock that happens automatically in these situations? and what about the ever increasing stress from everyday situations- being late for work or a meeting, a poorly child or just general stress of rushing around?
There are many things that you can do to help you overcome this stress. Each and everyone of us have different coping levels, and that depends on how full your 'emotional box' is (this is a metaphor for piling down the emotions into our body- this 'box' becomes full and then leads to problems like anxiety, sleep issues etc).
But, the fact is we are very amazing resilient people, and quite often its only after we have come through a crisis or a trauma that we realise that we have actually been stronger and much more agile in our way of coping. Often when we think that we are unable to cope, we have in fact come through the most difficult times.
We can all learn to be deal with our stresses from these difficulties and often can even blossom under pressure. There are a few things that are available to help you cope at these times- emptying your emotional box so that you are managing your stress, having the right coping strategies at your disposal and being both mentally and physically prepared for anything at any given time.
Self analysis is a fundamental tool- sit back and think about these times- how have you reacted in past times of trauma and stress?
There always tends to be two different types of personalities in a crisis- the reactive approach is is burying your head in the sand, emotional eating and drinking- looking for quick fix pick me ups whilst dwelling. The proactive approach is someone who already uses these practical coping strategies.
Seeking Help & Support- such as being with other people for help and support- this in itself helps lower the stress levels in the body.
Being organised- Making list of tasks that you need to do and ticking them off. This is great for the days when your feeling the brain fog and don't know what to do- make that list!
Look After You- Eating and drinking is vital and something that often goes out of the window when we are trying to cope- make those healthy snacks- I often find leaving a pint glass of water on the side in the kitchen reminds me to drink, then i fill it back up and leave it on the side where i will always see it. Now you can get some great water apps or even setting reminders on your phone. Nothing feels worse then being dehydrated and starving.
Its ok if you have both types of these approaches, but being active and using the coping strategies is great- even if you are going to reach for that bottle of wine and chocolate in the evening- keep going, you will get through this!
What is your way of thinking? Do you have a tendency to see the positive or the negative in any situation? By re framing the way in which you think can have a massively powerful impact on your life- it can be hard at first but there are ways of beating it- Awareness of your thoughts & emotions- are they happy or negative? Write down three reoccurring emotions of thoughts that you have daily- its only from awareness that the best possible changes can come. So next time you are doing or thinking that negative thought or emotion- change it to a positive, the more you do this, the positivity you bring will start changing the neurons in your brain to fire off positivity.
Jeani Howard is an intuitive healer and award winning therapist who specialises in Pre & Post Natal care and PTSD as well as childhood trauma & anxiety. Her desire is to help as many people as possible to feel better. Help her hit her 1 million!
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